A Nigerian woman has stirred up a debate online after advising single ladies aged 30 and above to focus on having children rather than prioritizing marriage. In a video shared on her TikTok page, the woman encouraged women in their 30s to shift their attention away from societal pressures surrounding marriage and instead embrace motherhood as their next step in life.
In the video, she made her stance clear, stating, “If you’re a lady in your 30s, and you haven’t gotten married, just forget about marriage, go and give birth to a child.” She argued that societal standards have influenced many women to place too much emphasis on marriage, and when these expectations are not met, it creates hesitations around the idea of getting married at all.
She went on to elaborate, offering her reasons for why it’s important for women to have children sooner rather than later. Her message resonated with some, while others felt the advice was too drastic or unrealistic. She also spoke about how many women feel the pressure to fulfill societal expectations of getting married before starting a family, even if it might not be the right decision for them at that time.
As the video gained traction, it quickly became a topic of discussion among viewers, who flooded the comment section with their thoughts. Some were supportive of the woman’s advice, while others voiced concerns, pointing out that the decision to have children is a personal one and shouldn't be rushed based on age alone.
See some reactions below:
exp ventures: “all this online advisers, a lady at 30 is still very young.”
hopemanfx: “I met a girl 33yrs. I begged her for pregnancy before marriage.. she refused.. I even set aside 3m for marriage she still refused. what are ur view???.”
Maxwell: “Many married people wish they are still single. You will definitely do better in life being single than getting married. stop over hyping marriage ok.”
Apostle Ikechukwu: “I met a 42yr old lady my uncle of 54 wants to marry she said my fresh uncle from America is too old for her lol😂😂.”
LORDKEMET .GOD.: “I talk to one about relationship she’s 34 she say she go think about it I laugh 🤣.”
China: “I have a friend but she’s (late)now that is 36 years that was married and left the marriage because of his husband’s family no child at her age.once you are up to 30 try and have a is not a bad thing.”
🇬🇧IAmTollyLondon🤍💋🇬🇧: “Some women have pcos which is a struggle to get pregnant also. And for a man to stay with such a situation is hard.”
Kunlejohnson: “I use to tell them, its pardonable if u dont marry but not pardonable if u are childless…Wen old age comes, u’ll knw d importance of children.”
xy-mascot.: “Forget about love, just try get baby. You yourself, you love man? no be money and standard you dey find? everybody should forget abt love.”
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