A Nigerian man currently residing in the United States has shared a deeply personal and humorous experience about his interaction with his Oyinbo (Caucasian) wife, detailing how teaching her a popular Nigerian slang unexpectedly backfired on him. The man, identified as @Cr7Godbrand on X (formerly known as Twitter), recounted the emotional impact of the incident and the lessons he has learned from it.
In his post, he explained that he often used the phrase “you no get sense” to scold his wife playfully whenever she made a mistake or acted in a way he found frustrating. While the term was initially meant to be lighthearted and harmless, it quickly became a source of tension in their relationship when his wife decided to turn the phrase back on him. The unexpected twist left him feeling hurt, speechless, and emasculated.
Narrating the incident, he wrote, “The worst mistake I ever made in my life was always using Nigerian words to insult my wife whenever she does something annoying or makes no sense. My favorite one is ‘you no get sense.’ Omo, when I did something stupid today and she used that word on me, my head almost exploded. It hurt the deepest part of my masculinity. I was so angry, pissed off, and speechless.”
The emotional toll of the encounter was evident as he admitted that hearing the phrase from his wife deeply wounded his pride. Seeking clarity, he confronted her about her choice of words. To his surprise, her response was calm and straightforward. She explained that she had merely mirrored his behavior, as he had set the precedent by using the phrase whenever she made a mistake.
He continued, “She said, ‘When I do something that makes no sense, you always say it to me, so now I am saying it to you because you did something that makes no sense.’ I couldn’t say anything. That word is banned in my house now. E pain me make I no lie. Witch.”
The man’s candid confession quickly sparked a lively discussion on social media platforms. Many users praised his wife for holding him accountable and giving him a taste of his own medicine, while others empathized with his experience, acknowledging the cultural nuances involved. Several commenters joked about introducing even more Nigerian slang into their relationships, while others advised against using potentially hurtful phrases in cross-cultural partnerships.
This lighthearted yet insightful story has highlighted the importance of communication, mutual respect, and understanding in relationships, especially those that cross cultural boundaries. It also serves as a reminder that words, no matter how casually used, can carry unintended emotional weight.
