A man has shared his doubts about getting married as he recounts the challenges he faced after cohabiting with his long-term girlfriend for just two weeks.
The man, who has remained anonymous, disclosed that he and his girlfriend had been in a relationship for a long period and were planning to get married in three months. However, they recently decided to live together before the wedding, and things took an unexpected turn.
According to the man, their two weeks of cohabitation were marked by tension and disagreements, which led to a power struggle between them. He explained that his girlfriend began expecting him to take on more responsibilities around the house, even after he provided for her needs. This reached a boiling point when she insisted that he wash her underwear, something he was unwilling to do. The disagreement escalated, and while he apologized for the argument, he refused to wash her clothes.
The man’s frustration grew as he felt increasingly troubled by her behavior. Not wanting to confront her directly, he confided in her mother, who intervened, but the girlfriend refused to apologize. The man now finds himself questioning whether he should go through with the wedding or reconsider his decision based on the behavior he’s witnessed so far. He is uncertain whether things will improve or worsen in the future.
He wrote: “I’m about getting married to a long-time girlfriend. Our wedding is in 3 months, but we started staying together since 2 weeks now. Then she started changing like seriously; she’s now trying to tussle power with me. She wants me to do everything after provisions; I should join in house chores too. Last week she seriously insisted I wash her pants, which I didn’t, and it later escalated to a big issue. I apologized but didn’t do the laundry for her. Recently she got me offended. I didn’t want to confront her because she wouldn’t accept, so I told her mum. She spoke to her to apologize, but she refused. I don’t know if I should cancel or continue with the wedding plans if she would change for good or get worse.”
The post quickly garnered attention online, with many users offering their thoughts on the situation.
@Iamnoble6 commented: “But how woman go take look you for face say make you wash her pants lol”
@adaora_crypto shared: “She will change for the worst, never think you can change a full-grown adult. That orientation she has, she got it from somewhere and wants to use you to do a test run. Not like helping your woman with chores is wrong, but she has a wrong orientation about it, which one is to wash pants? And anyone who doesn’t like to apologize when they are wrong is likely a narcissist. You will have a lot on your plate to deal with.”
@rukky_nate added: “You apologized to her for not washing her panties? Men used to go to wars, fight and die for God and country. Today, we have TikTok baddies as men. Anyways, whatever it is you couldn’t change while dating, you can NEVER change when married. Fling her, unless washing panties is your hobby.”
The man’s story left many stunned, and reactions continue to pour in as people offer their opinions on what he should do next. Some advise him to reconsider the marriage, while others express sympathy for the dilemma he faces. Ultimately, his experience highlights the complexities of cohabitation before marriage and how seemingly small issues can reveal deeper relational challenges.
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