A Nigerian woman, Kate Chinagorom Eze, has sparked mixed reactions after declaring that she would not leave her marriage if her husband marries a second wife or fathers a child outside their union. Her stance has led to both praise and criticism, with many questioning her views on infidelity and marital conflict.
Taking to Facebook on Thursday, January 16, Eze addressed critics who questioned her glowing account of her marriage while taking jabs at women who leave their relationships due to infidelity or marital conflicts. Her post, which emphasized the importance of staying committed to one's marriage despite challenges, sparked a debate on social media about what is acceptable in relationships and the cultural factors influencing people's choices.
It all started when she wrote, “Your Father wasn’t a saint but your mother stayed to give you sanity. Now you want your husband to be a saint in human form. If I have counselled 50 women, 45 started with I want to leave my marriage. Today, they are happier and grateful they didn’t leave.” Her words struck a chord with some of her followers, while others felt the need to challenge her perspective on the issue of infidelity and other marital difficulties.
This was followed by the response from a social media user who wasn’t satisfied with her stance, condemning Kate’s advice because her marriage is working. The critic wrote, “Because your marriage is working you think other women are like you? Because your husband hasn’t announced on social media that he’s taking a second wife because she already has a child for him is that why you’re rubbing your successful marriage in other people’s faces?
“Be happy that your husband is a responsible man who will do nothing to disrespect you. Stop being arrogant and lower your shoulders cuz no woman chooses to leave her marriage but life happens.” The comment was pointed, challenging Kate's approach to a marital situation that others may find challenging or intolerable.
Defending her standpoint, Eze argued that her husband, being an Igbo and African man, is culturally allowed to marry another wife, adding that such actions are not considered taboo in Igbo tradition. She highlighted that the dynamics of marriage in her culture and belief system are different from what some outsiders might think, which led her to take a firm stance on her commitment.
Why ma marriage to an Igbo man worked
“Why do some women always think that my husband getting married to another woman, Cheating on me or having a child outside is a dea–th sentence???😄😄😄
“So they are quick to remind me of how he will do these things 😄😄Honestly, some of you don’t know how prepared I am for marriage Dear commenter, ALL YOU STATED CAN’T MAKE ME LEAVE MY MARRIAGE INUGO
“He is an Igbo Man He is an African Man Having a second wife or a child outside is not a taboo in Igbo land Try another black—mail This doesn’t work with me Nextttt.” she stated. She made it clear that the prospect of her husband taking another wife or fathering a child outside their marriage would not force her to walk away from their relationship, as it aligns with cultural practices she respects.
She emphasized that the scenarios mentioned by critics would not compel her to leave her marriage, reinforcing her commitment and belief in the values she upholds in her relationship. Despite the mixed reactions, her post served as a reminder of the diverse perspectives on marriage and fidelity, with cultural, personal, and societal influences shaping individuals' choices and outlooks on their unions.
