A single mother of five has shocked the internet after vowing never to date men who already have kids, stating she’s too young to handle such a responsibility. The statement has gone viral, sparking discussions across various social media platforms.
In a post on TikTok, the woman openly shared her thoughts, revealing that as a mother of five children, she couldn’t imagine dating a man who has kids of his own. She explained that combining her five children with another man’s kids would make her a mother of at least seven children, which she feels is beyond what she can handle at this stage in her life.
Her decision is rooted in her preference for dating men who don’t have children. In her own words, she shared, “I cannot date a guy that already has kids because I have five kids. Imagine if you’re coming with your kids into the relationship—I have five, you have two—now I have to be a mother of seven kids. There’s no way; I can’t be a mother of seven kids. I’m very young to handle that.”
She elaborated on her preferences, saying she would rather stay with her five children than date a man with kids. She clarified that if any man wanted to date her, he would have to be willing to be a stepdad to her children while also being responsible for the financial upkeep of her family. “If a guy comes to date me, he has to have no kids and must be ready to be a stepdad to my kids. I want a present father. If you’re going to date me, you’re going to date me with my kids. It’s a must—you have to take care of us financially, provide for my kids and me. I am not working,” she added.
The woman continued to emphasize that her children were her priority, saying, “We come as a package deal. I don’t want your kids. I don’t have to date a guy that has kids because I already have my own.” She then invited any interested men to reach out, clearly stating her conditions, “If you’re interested as a guy, hit my inbox and be ready to be a stepfather.”
Her post quickly went viral, with numerous individuals weighing in on the debate. The comments section filled with various reactions, ranging from agreement to criticism, as people shared their thoughts on her stance. Some applauded her for being upfront about her preferences, while others questioned her expectations in relationships.
See some reactions below:
stufuzaesihle❤️: “I see no problem here, she has her preferences. Same as a guy who doesn’t want a woman without kids whereas he has kids. There are men who think this exact way… Baningi futhi.”
kefas Dube: “5kids already is more than a red flag but a red carpet 😂😂😂😂😂😂.”
peaceness4: “I’m very young to be a mother of seven kids🤣🤣🤣🤣.”
HBee: “The only part I’m struggling to comprehend is when she says, ‘we come as a bargain’.”
Dee: “This made me to take a celibacy decision for 2025 thank u sis.”
anonymous: “There are men who think like this too but want to judge her. It’s her preference too🌚👍.”
Prince Major: “Okay I understand is her preferences, but why must I be a present father if I don’t have kids😂😂.”
Thula Mkhize: “This is just sad and funny at the same time 😂🥺 She wants to receive, and not give… It’s a ‘bargain’ indeed 😂🤣.”
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