Founder of Mount Zion Faith Ministries, Pastor Mike Bamiloye, has shared his thoughts on the emotional struggles faced by the husbands of many female ministers, expressing concern over the loneliness they endure as their wives travel extensively for ministry work.
Pastor Bamiloye made this revelation in a statement released on Monday, shedding light on the frequent travels of some female ministers who are often away for extended periods, leaving their husbands to deal with isolation at home. He pointed out that while these ministers enjoy luxurious accommodations and fine dining during their travels, their husbands are left behind to manage local church duties and experience emotional hardship.
He explained that these women ministers often stay away from home for months at a time, fulfilling their gospel duties globally, while their husbands face a much different reality, dealing with loneliness and often relying on family members or housemaids for support in their absence. Pastor Bamiloye also highlighted the emotional cost of these long periods of separation, where the husbands have to fend for themselves, both physically and emotionally, with limited companionship and support.
The pastor further noted the difficulty many husbands face when they attempt to voice their concerns about the prolonged absences, only to be accused of hindering their wives' divine callings and visions. He expressed his disappointment over the lack of balance between ministry commitments and family life in these cases, urging female ministers to reflect on the emotional impact of their constant travels on their husbands and not to neglect their marital responsibilities while pursuing their God-given assignments.
He shared an example, saying, “There is a class of female ministers who never stay home with their husbands. They travel everywhere, staying in hotels and suites as they minister, enjoying the best of sumptuous meals provided by their hosts, while their husbands remain at home, managing the local church alone.” He added, “They can be away on ministrations for two or three months, ‘preaching’ the gospel around the world, while their husbands languish at home, relying on cousins, nephews, or housemaids for meals.”
Pastor Bamiloye emphasized that when these husbands try to address the issue or ask for less frequent trips, they are often met with accusations of stifling their wives’ ministries. He criticized the contradiction that these ministers present when they publicly praise their husbands in sermons while ignoring the emotional toll their absence causes. “They often stand behind pulpits, introducing their sermons with praises for their husbands: ‘I bring you greetings from my husband, the owner of my head, the payer of my dowry, without whom I would not be here today. He sends his warm greetings,’ even while the man is suffering in loneliness at home,” he stated. Pastor Bamiloye's message was a call for reflection, urging ministers to maintain balance and not allow their divine callings to overshadow the emotional and relational needs of their families.
